How can I stop my son from pulling girls pants down and masturbating? My son is not quite 5 yrs old. This has been going on for 2 years now. But, he would even lay down on the floor and act like he was humping it as young as 18 months. At first I would try to make him stop but, he would just throw a fit. Now that he is older he does this mostly when he is tired. But, not always. I have also caught him trying to pull girls pants down and getting other guys alone under blankets or in corners. I have taken him to 3 different councelors and all say he is normal and don't think he has been molested. I want to know how to stop him from doing this to other guys before it gets out of hand. I have tried talking to him and telling him about private areas no one is to see. Nothing seems to work. I now have a 1 yr old and I don't want him to start doing things like that with the baby. Other than just watching him at all times, which I am doing now. How can I help him deal with these feelings in the right way? How should I discipline him when I see it? |
| some of these ppl on here sound really ignorant. LOTS of guys at early ages tend to explore themselves. i have 3 girls, that have never once been to a babysitter,seen obsene television, nor been around any other people without me watching them, and 2 out of the 3 use to hump. its a natural normal thing, that DOES NOT have to be picked up for a guy to do. all you can really do is keep stressing that its something you do in private, and try to teach him to keep it to himself. not easy i know with little ones that don't understand that its wrong to do in public. but just keep tryin and good luck, don't pay any attention to the ignorants in here that know nothing about it, or haven't had to deal with it. |
What do I do? my 5 yr old con keeps pulling down little girls pants? I have explained to him that its not okay to look at other peoples private parts and that pulling someone pant down make them upset and because he is a boy he can not do that. He is only allowed to show his private areas to the Doctor as long as mommy or daddy is there and says its okay. It makes me worry one of 3 things are happening...1. is that he doesn't understand or realize its inappropriate to do that 2. that he might be catching me and my fiance during our private time or worst to think 3. that he is emulating what is happening to him from his dad and or new wife or even her 17 yr old son. I am lost at what to do and to think that my son is doing this makes me cry. Please help!!! any answers would help |
Your son knows it is wrong, he has been warned by you why it is wrong and he is able to comprhend it, he is just choosing to go ahead with it anyways, he doesnt care that it is wrong.
I think he is doing this to gain a sense of power/control. The fact his dad remarried and he has another "brother" is overwhelming to him, so by pulling down other guys pants, it is giving him a sense of control that he badly needs.
He needs a wakeup call now, telling him that its wrong clearly is not working. If you dont intervene, he very well could escalate this behaviour into sexual assault on others. Heres what you need to do:
1. Phone the principal, and inform him of the situation and your concerns, tell them you want the teachers to keep an eye on him. Inform the principal the teachers are to contact you immediately when he tries to pull down other peoples pants or touches them inapprorietaly. Encourage the school to punish him, because he needs this to happen.
2. Get your son into therapy, he clearly needs help. Hes not crazy or anything but his behaviour is a bit concerning, and it needs to be nipped in the bud right away. He needs to speak to a professional to work out whatever is going on in his head
3. You and Your ex need to meet up and set up some ground rules. You both need to be on the same page here about this issue. Your ex needs to discipline his son if hes at his place and alsoo contact you. When your son is with you and he does this, you need to discipline him, and also let his father know.
You also need to take the blinders off here, your son is not innocent in all of this, he knows what hes doing is wrong, and he doesnt care, that to me is alarming and should be screaming "red flag" to you as his parent.
If you step in now, you will be saving your son from heading down a very dangerous and self-destructive road. |
I pulled down a girls pants down and undies at school? me and her in seventh grade she liek hottest person in school so tehe i did that and it was in front of everyone......lunch and now i got expelled what should i do now? can i get back in school? |
| theres only one thing left to do SHAG HER |
Is pulling down a girls pants a sin?????? one of my friends that is a girl pants me. she said try to get me back i said not today but when your not expecting it so is it sin |
| So long as it's not against her will, it's fine. Since she did it to you and then asked you to reciprocate, obviously she wants you to pants her. |
I got pants pulled down and girls saw my penis? I was talking to some girls. Then this dude in my art class walks over to me and he pulls down my pants. You could kinda see my penis through my boxers. Then he partially pulled that down too. I turned red and pulled both of my clothes back up. The girls were giggling and I'm afraid to talk to them again because I'm embarassed. What should I do? By the way, I dumped a tray of paint on the dudes head. The art teacher got pretty mad but it was worth it! |
Ok, to start, revenge is never the answer (but in this case, I agree with what you did). That is a common embarrassment that many people experience especially during high school. I am sure the girls know what a penis is. It probably also isn't the first they have seen (movies, porn, health class, etc). I wouldn't fret about it to much and continue with life as it was before it happened. Don't avoid them because that would be avoiding their friendship.
Of course they giggled. At the time, it was probably funny to everyone except you. To tell you the truth, if I was their I would have probably giggled. Plus, I have guys come into my office all the time (I am a counselor at a local high school, and I am a medical doctor in training) with similar issues like you. You aren't the first person it has happened to and definitely not the last. If you avoid them, they will know something is up and know exactly why. It is ultimately your choice.
If you need any advice or if you have any questions, comments, concerns, etc...feel free to email or IM me (preferred IM). My screen name/email is: nicknrm@att.net
Have a great day! |
When a guy pulls down a girls pants it illegal but when a girl pulls down a guys pants it fine.? Why is that? |
It's not fine. Both are illegal. You are misinformed.
And the word is "it's," a contraction for "it is," not just "it." |
Why do festival girls pull down their pants and pee in front of everyone ? The amount of pink bits i saw at this years V festival was beyond a joke....go behind a tree at least ! |
I think these girls lack class, are drunk and probably high.
Unless you have a very weird fetish, there is nothing hot about seeing a girl going to the bathroom in front of everyone.
You're right, they need to go behind a tree. I am all for female nudity, just not while they are using the bathroom! |
How do you react to the bruno mars video pulled down pants part? (girls please)? I hated it because it was like it was a production to get you to think about his jiggle. How disgusting and repulsed I was to hear Blake Mcgraths Blow Me. |
lol i thought it was funny
So it's okay to have people like Rihanna flaunt everything she has on family shows like x factor but what Bruno Mars did, I thought it wasn't nearly as bad |
GIRLS,if a guy pulls down your pants in public what do you do? i seen some videos on the internet where hooded guys take off girls shirts or pull of their bras or siply pull their pants down
so what do you do if a guy does that and runs away |
| I would slap a ***** (: |
How come girls always pull down their shirt and/or pull their pants up all the time? Big deal if a guy or two sees your underwear, right? If nothing bad will happen, then why are girls doing it all of the time? |
Or if a girl sees your crack or underwear... no big deal.
It bugs me too cause you sometimes cant stop watching some girls that sit there all of class and try to pull their shirt down, which is obviously shorter, the way they bought it, to cover the top of their butt crack or their lower back for stupid resons like their thong could show.. big whoop... |